This is a discussion forum, so it doesn’t need to be academic writing style. It is more like a casual writing, requiring us reflect on and synthesize the readings and answer the discussion question.

Here are the questions:

1. How does Traister dispel the myth that marriage will bring greater finances?

2. How does Hartman attend to the relationship between labor and intimacy?

First, Please respond these two questions with at least 500 words in total

Second, please respond to these two answers belowfrom my classmates with comments, each comment with minimum 150 words.

Classmate A’s answer:

This week’s reading is very interesting and thought provoking, as it focuses on the process of women trying to fight against the social norms. These materials are closely related to my final project, which relates to the social oppressions that Chinese women in marriage are currently confronting. In the reading, I saw the similar experience that both Chinese women and Black women have. In the Wayward Lives, Beautiful Experiments, Saidiya Hartman tells a story about the the process of Black women “made a way out of no way”, facing the excessive abuse and torture enacted on their bodies. It is heartbreaking that Black women’s efforts in fighting against social oppressions often brought only censure, repression, violence and arrest. Their intimate revolution was apprehended as crime and pathology. Black women were vastly harassed and confined on suspicions of future criminality. They are charged for ridiculous crimes, such as “failed adjustment” or “potential prostitute.” As Saidiya Hartman writes, in Wayward Lives, Beautiful Experiments, “few, then or now, recognized young black women as sexual modernists, free lovers, radicals, and anarchists, or realized that the flapper was a pale imitation of the ghetto girl. They have been credited with nothing: they remain surplus women of no significance, girls deemed unfit for history and destined to be minor figures.” These minor characters’ voices are often time omitted and forgot by the general public, but they extremely important for us to examine the unbearable discriminations that women are facing and will be facing in the future, thus allowing us to further address these issues.

From this week’s reading, I know better about the disadvantaged place females are in modern society. Despite the females and males take different social imagine, another obviously way show at salary females earn from the article “For Poorer: Single Women and Sexism, Racism, and Poverty” Rebecca Traister points out that “ for centuries, women who did not find economic shelter with husbands often discovered themselves nonetheless reliant on men”(Rebecca Traister p,183). That indicated two problems, women tend to lose their job or just maintain daily chore during the days when they get married, secondly just because females can’t get the better salary during the society so they quit. Males still in control, which means females can’t take the house financial problem, thus dispelling the myth that marriage will bring greater finances. Another aspect of fatherhood bonus and motherhood penalty. According to the article that “women who are pregnant or have young children find it harder than childless workers to switch jobs”(Rebecca Traister p,189). During the marriage people who want children carry much more pressure, first, they have to buy a house and car which if it’s better near the school, second females have to work to reduce the cost, sustain the family. Now females with children or pregnant are hardly to find a job that makes financial even worse. Males make enough salary really depends on where they work and what position they are. Never mention the divorce can bring to single mothers.

Classmate B’s answer:

Traister begins by acknowledging the fact that sometimes, marriage brings a sense of security to a family. She gives the example of Jessica and Chris, who earn around the same amount by the latter, gets to enjoy life a little because of her husband. While Jessica spends more than half on rent and the rest on food and supplies, Chris gets to plan for vacation and enroll her children to extracurricular activities. This instance paints a beautiful picture of marriage and how positively it can impact the lives of women. However, what this example left out is the statistics that shed light on the new reality of the modern world. Here, Traister explains of the outrageously high number of divorces and the low chances of survival of a marriage institution. With this in mind, women will only be chasing a façade if they get married just for their economic health and prosperity. She dispels the myth that marriage is a doorway to higher finances. Often, she says, they don’t pay mind to the probability of getting children and then finding themselves as single parents. Additionally, the levels of incarceration increase on a daily, especially in communities with people of color (Traister, 2016).

Traister also adds that sometimes marriage can be burdensome to more capable women, especially when the men are struggling financially. She gives the example of the poor white women in Monica Potts’ story, where the mothers work the hardest, earning more but still don’t get credit for being the breadwinners. This situation shows that in today’s world, marriage can always be a guaranteed move to economic posterity.

Hartman describes the labor and intimacy as revolutionary during the period she addresses in her book. At the time, women began to explore other means of survival, other than conforming to a state of affairs that did not have their interest at heart. In light of this, women preferred to be sex workers to being domestic workers where they also had to go through sexual assault and rape. By putting themselves out there within this work environment, they were facing the struggles of life head-on and, in a way, freeing themselves of the built-in harsh conditions. Hartman also explores how these black women “made a way out of no way” through different means like working increasingly harder or through sex (Hartman, 2019). Here, these individuals did what they felt and what society expected, thereby paving the way for new cultures that are common in today’s world.

Therefore, this relationship between labor and intimacy was a more flexible one, within which women discovered themselves and newer and revolutionary ways to satisfy their needs. This connection between their work and their social lives helped them figure out a means with which they could thrive in an environment characterized by deprivation, brutality, and abject poverty. They refused to subscribe to slavery and constant pain and chose a path where they could work freely, love freely, and enjoy freedom. In this context, they could work where they wanted, raise their children independently, and satisfy their physical and emotional needs at their convenience.